We live in a community that is based on sharing, yet struggle just as much as any other parents to instill the value of sharing on children. Are the sharing habits of commune kids actually any different than those of the mainstream? Effectively encouraging sharing appears to be an as yet unsolved problem. Mandating children’s sharing seems to miss the point: kids don’t seem to become empathetic sharers by having their toys passed on to others by force. But a lassiez-faire approach will often leave children stuck in selfish habits. just as well. Does the commune life help create an example of sharing, or does so much shared actually work in the opposite direction, encouraging children (and adults) to claim out whatever personal domain they can. Keegan and myself, adder Oaks, explore these questions and more on this episode of Commune Dads.
Keegan and adder take on tech. Both share their interest in teaching children to understand and program computers, but express fear at the way computers and smartphones can have power over people. Keegan shares his childhood memories as the first personal computers made it into homes and his lifelong obsession with computers that he has spent his adult years fighting off. Can children on the commune avoid a similar fate? Adder expresses his nostalgia for video games and shares his plan to teach a 5-year-old text-based computing. Both try to make sense of the ubiquity of smartphones in the lives of today’s children.
Everything Bad is Good for You
In the Beginning… was the Command Line
K12 Online Education
Anki – Powerful, Intelligent Flash Cards
Opening Music: Commune Dads Theme – Nick Paoletti
Closing Music: Happy Rock – bensound.com
I would like to introduce a brand new podcast hosted by myself (adder) and Keegan. It’s called Commune Dads and is a a discussion-driven podcast about the challenges and joys of parenting on a commune, in our case at Twin Oaks . We share our individual parenting and education values, as well as anecdotes about many of the commune kids.
I got excited about the idea of doing a parenting podcast pretty soon after my son was born, who is now eleven months old. I love to listen to podcasts, audiobooks, and lecture series when I work, and this didn’t change when my main work area became parenting. When he was brand new, he would (naturally) sleep for the majority of the day. But the best way to keep him asleep was to wear him on my back and bounce him around for the entire duration of his sleep. This is still his preferred form of nap.
Naturally, I listened to podcasts during his naps. I was turned on to some pretty good ones (my favorite is probably Slate’s Mom and Dad Are Fighting). At the same time, my best friend here, Keegan, was looking forward to the birth of his child, about six months after mine. Keegan and I regularly have long, productive, funny, emotional, supportive, enjoyable conversations — why not record them? I pitched him the idea and he was all for it. Though it took some time before we got around to it, once both of us had babies whose schedules started to settle, we could plan and record this show. I am glad we have. At its heart, I think this podcast is a way to ensure that, despite our changing and busy lives, my best friend and I still make time for each other.